The friendzone is the dreaded place that most men go to romantically die. You’ve found a woman that you really like, but somehow along the way you became more of a brother or girlfriend than a prospective mate. How did that happen? It’s a subtle change that most guys don’t even notice. But truth be told it happens all within the first date. That’s right, you’re behind and she’s already decided that you can see her naked because it’s like you’re one of the girls. Forget that. The next time you have a date set up follow these steps and keep yourself out of the friendzone.
Declare Your Intent
Asking her out for a cup of coffee sometime seems like a smooth, casual way to ask her out. That’s great, except for you’re not asking her out on a date. While you may think that your intentions sound crystal clear, in actuality you’re just asking her to hang out. Who else hangs out while getting coffee? Oh that’s right, friends. By telling her that you think she’s really fun and you’d like to take her out on a date you’re being very clear and honest about what you’re thinking. Either she’ll take the date and meet you later or tell you that she’s not interested. It will suck getting rejected, but at least you don’t have to hang around shopping with her while she complains about the new guy who’s being a total jerk to her.
Keep Conversation Moving
Everyone starts off with the same questions when they go on a date. If you’ve managed to get this far, don’t think that you’re free from the zone. She said yes to the date, but when you start stumbling over questions like, “What do you do for work?” you’re leading her down a trail of telling you about her job and unloading her stresses on you. Does that sound like something she’d do with a boyfriend? Yeah, maybe later on down the road. For now she would tell her romantic interest the gist of it and then move on to something more interesting. She’d tell her friends about the jerk working in the cubical next to her. Brush over the basics and then ask her the real questions like what her passions are and where she sees herself in five years. These questions about her and her future puts her thoughts into perspective, including what she’s going to do with you.
During your date be confident. Confidence is one of the most attractive qualities that a guy can have. Again, just because you got to the date doesn’t mean that it can’t turn into a friendzone halfway through. By powering all the way to the end with your intentions of romance on your sleeve and your attitude confident you’ll leave an impression on her that will make her consider going on another date with you. After all that if it didn’t work out and she says that she wants to be friends tell her that you’re not interested, but thanks.